Ya’ll. I was going to write an inspirational post about the importance of giving grace. Truthfully, I felt this was one area that I was doing well. Boy was I wrong.
After reflection, I realized I am gifted at giving grace to people who I think deserve the grace. Yep. Read that sentence again. “I give grace to those who I think deserve grace.” This defies everything that is true about giving grace.
I want to wholeheartedly always assume positive intent. And this is hard. Because I judge. What do I need? I need my friends and family to call me on it. Make me see the positive intent. Challenge my thinking. When a student is acting out, please don’t allow me to judge the behavior. Ask me to think about why the child is acting this way. Help me to see and understand his/her perspective. When a co-worker seems distant, ask me questions. Make me think and feel from their perspective. When a parent is upset, remind me to always remember how I want someone to treat my child. When my husband is taking on so many additional tasks, remind me… well, honestly he’s got a great catch :) Seriously, remind me to give grace, because he is taking on so much more to support me as a principal.
Giving grace and assuming positive intent is rewarding and it’s challenging. It’s challenging because sometimes we have to admit we are wrong. Not fun, but necessary.
Who do you decide to give grace to or give positive intent to? More importantly, who are we not giving grace to? And who are we not assuming positive intent for?
We all need grace. We all need positive intent. Let’s do this for each other.